marriage

I’m so sad I didn’t get to post this yesterday but my hubby and I tied the knot two years ago…yesterday

I’ve found that many people have wonderful marriage wisdom that they pass along and I must say that in two years, I’ve already come up with some of my own (limited though it may be):

Be appreciative instead of critical

Remember every day that you re-make the choice to be with your person (and some days are easier than others)

Take love, passion and all else aside and consider this:

Marriage is all about choices and decisions.

This may seem like a no brainer to some of you…well that’s super obvious Vanessa.  Aren’t most things in life comprised of those two?

I say yes, however, I don’t simply mean the obvious decisions but so much deeper than that.  Every day that you get up, you make decisions about your relationship and that commitment all over again to them.

Although I wouldn’t change anything about my wedding day, the vows I would offer and receive would sound a lot different now.  The vows I took then hold true to this day, but I would add so many things to the list, and so would he.

Two years ago yesterday, my wonderful husband and I said in front of our friends and family the things we had been saying verbally and subconsciously everyday and what we would continue to say everyday to come.

So for all of you with your person (spouse, boy/girlfriend, fiance…whatever) give them an extra squeeze today and remind them that they are important to you.

It may seem like an incredibly dark outlook especially on what is such a happy occasion, (but since both Patrick and I agree on this point we can overlook the dark aspect) but you’ll only have so long to let them know, so better do it while you can.

Which leads me to my last piece of wisdom…try your hardest, to not take your person for granted.

I’m not perfect at any of these, but, for example, sometimes we’ll be critical of each other and then immediately say thank you instead of continuing our rant.

I feel like that’s a start.

p.s. This first photo was taken in November of 2006 at the Rock Quarry for our Scuba Open Water Dives (we met in Scuba class and were dive buddies).  We had been dating for about two months at this time, known each other for three months, and got engaged a month later.  Needless to say, we don’t have many photos from when we were dating

Aren’t the wetsuits just the best thing in the world??  And sooooo flattering…you know you want one!

This was taken on Saturday when we went out on our anniversary date  Happy Anniversary Hubby  I’m so glad I married you.  Love you tons.

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